The biblical principle of being ‘equally yoked’ extends beyond marital relationships; it impacts our friendships as well. Friendships are among the most significant relationships we form in our lives. They are part of the fellowships that help bring meaning and happiness into different aspects of our lives. Friends can shape our character, influence our decisions, and offer us a shoulder to lean on when challenges come our way. Such kinds of friendships are known as equally yoked friendships. As Christians, the foundation of our friendships must align with our faith. Our relationships must be the kind of relationships that help us grow spiritually. God’s Word in Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Equally yoked friendships help us to become better versions of ourselves. They support us to move forward to greater heights.
However, not all friendships are good for us. Some lead us astray, kill our destinies, and move us far away from God. These friendships are known as unequally yoked friendships. The Bible warns us against building relationships with people who don’t share the same faith, perspectives, and values as us. The Bible in 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV) says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” Since we are Christians, all of us are children of light because Christ is the light of the world. God does not want us to equally yoke ourselves with people who are not in the light.
In this article, we are going to delve deeper into equally yoked and unequally yoked friendships together with the effects that come with each of them.
1. Equally Yoked Friendships
The term ‘equally yoked’ originates from 2 Corinthians 6:14, which warns believers against forming partnerships with unbelievers. While many primarily relate it to marital relationships, it can be applied to friendships too. An equally yoked friendship is rooted in shared faith, values, and beliefs. Here are some reasons why equally yoked friendships are important in our lives.
· Spiritual Growth
An equally yoked friendship fosters spiritual growth. Both friends uplift, encourage, and challenge each other in their walk with Christ. They pray together, study the Scriptures, and hold each other accountable, ensuring that they remain steadfast in their faith.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV) says, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” As people who share the same faith, we are called to lift others up and hold their hands when they feel discouraged. We pray for one another when challenging times hit us up. Good friends comfort one another using God’s Word in God’s wisdom. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV) says, “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” In times of trials and tribulations, equally yoked friends provide guidance and support. They remind each other of God’s promises and stand firm together in faith.
· Accountability
Additionally, equally yoked friendships are important because they keep individuals accountable for every action and every step they take. When friends share the same values and beliefs, their relationship thrives on mutual respect and understanding. So, when any of them falters, they help them work on their mistakes through a biblical lens. You see, when you surround yourself with friends who value their relationship with God, you too will automatically do so. They will always keep you in check whenever they notice that you are not keeping up with their standard of godliness.
· Holistic Development
An equally yoked friendship also promotes holistic development. As iron sharpens iron, these friends challenge each other to grow intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.
2. Unequally Yoked Friendships
Contrary to equally yoked friendships, unequally yoked friendships pose significant challenges and potential pitfalls. 1 Corinthians 15:11 (NIV) says, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” When believers form close bonds with those who do not share their faith or values, they risk compromising their convictions and spiritual well-being. The Bible instructs us to stay away from people whose character is wanting. In 2 Timothy 3:5 (NIV), we are told to have nothing to do with such people.
But why should we stay away from ungodly people? It is because bad company brings more harm than good into every aspect of our lives. Here are some of the consequences of forming equally yoked friendships;
· Compromised Values
In unequally yoked friendships, believers may find themselves compromising their values and principles to fit in or avoid conflict. Yet, God’s Word in Romans 12:2 (NIV) instructs us not to conform to the patterns of the world. Over time, this can lead to spiritual stagnation and moral decay. We find ourselves doing things that are contrary to the principles of God’s Word to please these people so that we may satisfy our sense of belonging.
· Temptation and Distraction
Friends who do not share the same faith with us may lead us astray through worldly temptations. Instead of encouraging a life centered on Christ, they may distract us with worldly pursuits, materialism, or ungodly behaviors.
· Lack of Spiritual Accountability
Without shared faith and values, some of our friends cannot provide genuine spiritual accountability and guidance. Such friends don’t care if our actions or words are not pleasing to God. They may overlook sinful behaviors, offer misguided advice, or lead us away from God’s truth. We easily make wrong choices in life when we are surrounded by bad company.
Conclusion
As believers, our friendships should reflect our commitment to Christ and His teachings. Embracing equally yoked friendships enriches our spiritual journey. Conversely, avoiding unequally yoked friendships safeguards our faith and ensures that we remain anchored in God’s truth. As we navigate our relationships, let us prioritize God-centered friendships. Seek companions who share our faith, and help each other strengthen their relationships with God. By doing so, we cultivate relationships that honor God, enrich our lives, and reflect the power of His love.
As always, I love you and thank you for reading.
Coach Shonda McCray
Certified PTSD Coach
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